Megan's How-To Piece

Megan Stewart
Magazine
9/5/10
How to Wait for Sex
Are you tired of laying face down, wondering why you gave it up again? Guy
after guy, and you still can’t get it right? Try to just wait. Does that
sound impossible? It’s unheard of to wait to have sex because it’s the
20th century. But, if you’re tired of looking for love in all the wrong
people and body parts, here’s how to get it right.
Consider it in the beginning, the getting-to-know each other period. Maybe
you’re at the bar and he just bought your drink. Maybe you’re at a school
function or activity. Try to sneak it in the conversation…after the “I’m
studying English Writing” and before the “I had a rough past
relationship,” say you are saving yourself. This way, you will filter out
the jerks (Warning: there may be a lot of them, but they are worth
eliminating). A guy that wants you for the evening …out.
Think STDS. If you happen to fail on the first step, and the guy is having
drinks at your apartment, or he’s inviting you to his tiny dorm room after
class, remind yourself that if he’s trying to take you easy, he’s probably
taking others easy. Guys that are blunt to get you alone at night are not
ammeters. Who knows who they may have been with and where they have been.
According to the American Social Health Association, one in five people in
the United States has an STD and two-thirds of all STDs occur in people 25
years of age or younger. Write those statistics on your hand.
Think babies. Okay, so condoms are not 100% effective. According to "Facts
on Reproductive Rights," from the National Organization for women the pill
fails 6.2% of the time, the condom fails 14.2% of the time, the diaphragm
fails 15.6% of the time and spermicide fails 26.3% of the time. So, if
this guy is taking you home on a one night stand, he’s probably not ready
for a baby. And are you? Now tattoo those statistics next to the writing
on your hand.
So, if you got through the first three steps, and now you are in a
relationship with a man who respects you and wants to wait too, it’s time
to really practice some self control.
Focus on the solid part of your foundation. Instead of putting sex in the
midst of this new relationship and letting it consume you, focus on other
things. The illumination period will come. He will burp and fart and he
may notice the hair on your face or the stretch mark on your hip while
you’re in your bathing suit, will you still be attracted to each other
now? If he still loves you, with every character defect and physical
defect, he may be a keeper, and this could be beautiful.
Show your love in a different way. Things are really going good. You can
live with him and he can live with you. So, focus on showing each other,
without sex. After all, if you want something serious, after a long
marriage, you better have more than physical desire because things start
to hang a little too low when you get old. Try going out golfing and to
the drive-in, instead of movies at his apartment till 2am.
Think of a reason not to wait. In the moment, you just want to. It’s just
like when you are trying to lose weight. In the moment, the cheeseburger
and the fries look like they would just hit the spot, but in the big
picture, is that the best decision? The reasons to wait to have sex will
outweigh the reasons to do it. You’ll meet you’re perfect man, so why not
wait?